The more I watch this video clip the more I learn. Take a walk down memory lane with me for a minute and let me know what you see.

We should be able to “play nice together” but there is an awful lot of distance between us. What can we do to close the gap and enjoy some harmony?

Perhaps the notion of power struggle has got to be thrown out of the equation. In every synergistic relationship where multiple parties join together to produce a greater result that either could come up with on there own there will have to be complimentary roles that each will need to play.

There will have to be some give and take and a mutual respect of everyone’s right to express themselves ( here’s the kicker) in the interest of benefiting all parties involved. No one has the right to shut anyone elses view or idea down and the plan for the future can’t be one-sided.

One thing is apparent, without a clear idea of the Originator’s intention for men and women to interact with each other the intentions we come up with can only make life more difficult than it needs to be.  But it all starts with dialogue so we can understand each other.

I’m not qualified to speak on behalf of women unless they are being endangered by a common enemy.  But as for the men.  We need to stop trying to please and conform to the desire of women & seek to please and conform to the desire of the creator of men and women.(HighRoadism 4 the day)

That the right amount of power in everybody’s hands.  So how do you think we can end the battle?

I am currently listening to a conference call where the discussion is focused on how detrimental social networking can be to relationships, Marriage in particular.

It can really be shocking to just read or observe what ideas people are communicating to one another online. One man on the call raised a great point that resonates with all I’ve been saying about authenticity: “In marriage there should be no secrets.” I always say that where there is nothing to hide there is nothing to fear.

I wonder if people who identify themselves as married would freely share conversations they have online with their spouse. I don’t mean to rant about this but I am an advocate for strong & healthy marriages and relationships. I do agree that since I’m married, my wife should have as much access to what I do online as she does to the half gallon of juice that is in the refrigerator.

But when that level of openness and access is granted it must be understood that judgment, condemnation, and accusation do not go hand in hand with authentic, transparent relation.

Would you allow your spouse to see what you tweet, post or say on Twitter & Facebook?

Do you have to hide your “friends”?

Now I’m a big advocate for healthy authentic relationships and marriages where husbands and wives are in tune with themselves and each other. However I don’t believe that toxic chemistry is anything to play with. If a man and woman don’t have what it takes to make a good match then I believe that they shouldn’t be together. Unfortunately many don’t find this out until after the children come and the thrill is gone.

I have been reading articles all day about people who were just fed up and wanted to get out of their marriage or relationship. Everyone of us can remember the good times when love was exciting and new and you were ready to come aboard because someone was expecting you. Anybody else have a strange urge to sing now? The one common theme is that they are unhappy because of what their spouse does or doesn’t do and are wondering whether they should stick it out or drop that zero and get with a hero. Been there done that.

We’ve heard that all animate life, (bugs, animals, humans) naturally function on the Fight or Flight response to pressure. So its no surprise that in relationships, which are challenging to keep healthy and thriving by default, we automatically respond with conflict or avoidance. Now there are some instances where its absolutely necessary to part so everyone can be at peace. But let me suggest an idea or 2 that I got from The High Road.

In order to overcome an issue or truly solve a problem you can’t run from it. You have to communicate the message clearly to your spouse about your feelings, needs and desires. Open, Honest and Authentic Communication (about yourself and with someone else) is the foundation to resolving any issue between a man and a woman. The first or most common choice can no longer be to bail out.

Lastly healthy , intimate relationships are spiritual in nature. And unless we start learning more about our own spirit and our spouses spirit from the one who created our spirit we’re just groping in the dark.
I thought there were quite a few valuable lessons here. Listen & tell me what you think.