This is the 2nd part in a series on Cheating, why we don’t need it and how to end it. Read Pt 1 here.

I would love to know what the statistics would be if people had a chance to anonymously answer the question have you cheated in your relationship/marriage?

If you could insure that your significant other never cheats on you (or you never cheat either) would you make sure it never happens? Well the fact of the matter is, you can’t control what other people do.  But you can do what’s necessary to avoid a situation before it becomes a problem.

First let me say that no one in a committed relationship has the right to form any secretive, intimate romantic/sexual bond with anyone else outside of their prime relationship.  Every excuse that people use to justify cheating is really just that; an excuse.  So if you are to take responsibility for what happens in your environment what you are really doing is eliminating every excuse to cheat or to be cheated on.  Lets take a stand.  No more victims in relationships.

Leave nothing to chance

There should be no misunderstanding or unexpressed expectations around what two people in a relationship should & should not do to and with one another.  We like to talk about the fun stuff and what we like but conversation around what’s out of bounds or beyond limits never happens until feelings get hurt.  Talk about all the unpleasant aspects of relationships and what the consequences will be if they show up in your relationship before you get deep into the relationship.

Create an atmosphere of openness and non-judgment

The main reason people lie or hide the truth is because they fear the consequences.  They(we) automatically assume that we will be judged or condemned for saying what’s on our minds or deep in our hearts.  So we bury it and keep that side of ourselves hidden.  Which usually leads to seeking out some way to fulfill that longing or desire.  That’s why people turn to binging  on junk food, alcohol, drugs, internet porn or cheating.  But problems seem to lose their steam when they are brought to light & uncovered.  Make the other person feel that there is nothing to hide.  (When there’s nothing to hide there’s nothing to fear. HighRoadism)

These are just a couple of the ways to eliminate cheating from relationships.  I didn’t even mention public flogging.  Do you think its possible to have a relationship where none of your feelings, thoughts or desires are hidden?  What do you think?