This is part of a series on Midlife Crisis. I’m quick to crack a joke or spring a one liner about it but there are actually a large number of people who are struggling with finding their way through the changes that life brings. Let’s face it. In that state of uncertainty its real easy to make life more difficult for yourself than it needs to be.
So what’s at the root of midlife crisis? If you’ve gone through it (or are going through it) you’ll probably agree that its got a lot to do with how you feel. How you feel about getting older, about the people around you(including family), about what you’ve accomplished in life, about what you don’t like.
The list can go on and on but its all about what you experience, how you choose to perceive it and the meaning you assign to it. Usually if you think of the things, people and places in your life there is a story attached. Here’s the part where we make life more difficult.
Here’s a HighRoadism I’d like you to consider. “Stuff doesn’t happen TO YOU. Stuff happens, you experience it and what happens next is entirely up to you.” Our feelings are wrapped up in the story we make ourselves believe is the absolute truth when in reality its just one possible perception of what happened. Now this is where the fun can begin.
How you feel about your life is based on what you see (choice), how you think about it (choice) and what you believe about it (choice). The good news is: The moment you decide to shift your perception you get your groove back. You become empowered to see new possibilities. From that position you can live the life you want in the healthiest way possible.
I know that’s a lot to swallow in the limited space we have here but just try it on for size & then I’ll hit you with the good stuff tomorrow.
I think I’ll change the definition of Midlife Crisis to: When we make life more difficult for ourselves that it has to be. How’s that sound?